Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

This behavior is not normal and it’s not OK. (You deserve so much better.)

Just like an alcoholic denies their drinking problem, people in emotionally abusive relationships often default to denial as well.

There’s a common thread that runs through every abusive relationship — fear.

An abuser of any kind is an expert at making you afraid in big and subtle ways. Here are classic, sinister ways your partner actively makes you a victim of emotional abuse:

1. Destroying your self-esteem with constant put-downs
2. Bullying you so you feel weak and helpless
3. Insulting you so you think no one else would ever want you
4. Controlling you by dictating what’s right or best for you
5. Criticizes you so you no longer trust yourself
6. Making you dependent by destroying your confidence
7. Focusing only on your faults so you forget your value
8. Creating a “you” against “them” dynamic, separating you from others
9. Insisting his needs are the priority, so you ignore your own
10. Keeping you guessing so you can never feel safe

When you recognize you’re with an emotional abuser, it’s not easy to free yourself from their tight grip. The relationship has most likely sapped your strength and weakened your will. Separating from your partner’s manipulative [continue reading…]

There’s a time in most relationships when a man suddenly goes from hot to cold. He’ll seem to be more distant as if he’s starting to pull away.

This change can throw us into a panic, making us feel insecure just when things were beginning to feel so good.

It’s common to interpret this change of behavior as being our fault, creating an emotional reaction that’s way out of proportion. Old hurts and wounds from childhood get triggered and suddenly we’re like a kid again, afraid of losing the love we depend on for survival.

Our self-confidence, which received a boost with this romance, suddenly crashes into confusion and self-doubt. We thought we were strong but we now feel like a helpless victim of his change of heart. Desperation overrides our good judgment and we find ourselves in our primal “flight or fight” mode.

This is when we revert out of fear to our primary survival patterns.

If our survival pattern is fight, we’ll run after a man who’s turning cold. We’ll go into pursuit, finding ways to make ourselves more attractive or become more sexually aggressive. We’ll text, email or call him trying [continue reading…]

I bet you’ve asked yourself this question more than once, hoping to learn the secret that would make a man love you and never leave.

But falling in love is not like baking a cake, there’s no recipe you can follow to get the same results each time. Relationships aren’t that simple, each man will bring out something different in you. The bottom line is that there is one thing that all men respond to: how you make him feel about himself.

The things you think you may be lacking as a woman aren’t even important; for example, you don’t have to be a sexy siren in bed or the world’s best conversationalist. The truth is that if he doesn’t feel good about himself around you nothing you do will help. If a man can feel happy and comfortable in your presence, you have what it takes to keep him coming back for more.

Part of his feeling good is determined by the chemistry you share between the two you. That’s not something you can control, it’s biological. But a good part is in your power. You will inspire these feelings in a man if you are happy and comfortable with yourself when you are with him.

There is no magic recipe; it requires that you show up as your authentic self in the relationship. If you feel insecure about who you are with him, he will feel it and he won’t [continue reading…]