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What Do Men Really Want in a Woman?

happy couple, marriage, romanceI bet you’ve asked yourself this question more than once, hoping to learn the secret that would make a man love you and never leave.

But falling in love is not like baking a cake, there’s no recipe you can follow to get the same results each time. Relationships aren’t that simple, each man will bring out something different in you. The bottom line is that there is one thing that all men respond to: how you make him feel about himself.

The things you think you may be lacking as a woman aren’t even important; for example, you don’t have to be a sexy siren in bed or the world’s best conversationalist. The truth is that if he doesn’t feel good about himself around you nothing you do will help. If a man can feel happy and comfortable in your presence, you have what it takes to keep him coming back for more.

Part of his feeling good is determined by the chemistry you share between the two you. That’s not something you can control, it’s biological. But a good part is in your power. You will inspire these feelings in a man if you are happy and comfortable with yourself when you are with him.

There is no magic recipe; it requires that you show up as your authentic self in the relationship. If you feel insecure about who you are with him, he will feel it and he won’t be able to make a deep connection with you. That means no walking on eggshells around him or being afraid to speak up. No lying to him about what you think or feel to keep the peace, or going overboard to make his life easy while sacrificing your own.

If you need to work on your confidence and self-esteem do it, you deserve to be loved for your true self. You’ll feel good that you’ve taken the time and made the effort to be the best woman you can be.

A man needs to know that you are comfortable with who you are to feel comfortable himself. Then he will be able to trust you and love you.

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  • lisa September 5, 2011, 9:31 am

    Great article, I especially agree about the self esteem part, men really like confident women, the kind of women that wake up in the morning and feel gorgeous no matter what their hair looks like right now…:)

  • Alica October 15, 2011, 3:34 pm

    If you feel insecure around him – can that change. Can you start to speak up ?

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