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Love Of Your Life!

It may be a life-long dream, or an idea you’ve finally embraced after years of being single — whatever your situation — I bet somewhere in the depths of your mind you have a nagging, desperate feeling that marriage is never going to happen for you.

I know exactly how you feel.

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From the Blog

Get Real To Get Love

get loveIf you don’t know who you are, you’re in danger of becoming what a man wants you to be. This was one of the biggest challenges I had to meet before I could find true love.

It’s really about knowing your value as a woman. It’s about being aware of what you bring to the table in a relationship and, more importantly, in a marriage. I’m not talking about material possessions; I’m referring to the personal qualities uniquely yours that you share with your partner.

This might seem obvious, but it’s something I see many women overlook in their relationships. I know I did. I spent more time analyzing the men in my life than I did looking at myself. I scrutinized their behavior so I could figure out what they wanted from me. I did it all to get love. I wanted desperately to please them and to be the kind of girlfriend they would never leave. This behavior kept me single for many years.

I changed who I was with men so many times that I no longer knew myself. Other than my physical attributes, I had no real idea why a man should be going out with me. My self-awareness was pretty non-existent. And as Dr. Phil says, “you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.”

It took me a long time before I [continue reading…]

How To Find A Good Man To Marry? Use Your Common Sense

find a good man to marryTo find a good man to marry you need more than luck; it requires common sense. When you fall in love, your good judgment can fly out the window. I know, I was an expert at turning off my brain and going strictly by instinct when it came to men. As I explain in “It’s Never too Late to Marry,” it took me what seemed like forever to finally wise up and let my intelligence have a say in my romantic life.

I know you think using your common sense sounds unromantic; it is! Relationships are much more than romance.

Giving your common sense a say in your love life means saying good-by to some unhealthy tendencies you’ve developed — without realizing it. There are some bad habits that have snuck in under your radar and are now causing you a lot of pain.

To find a good man to marry you have to face facts.

For starters, you have to stop the over-the-top drama you may have allowed in your relationships. This comes from picking the kind of men that make you feel crazy and out of control; men who [continue reading…]

5 Things You NEVER Owe A Man You’re Dating (Now, Or Ever!)

a man you're dating

Don’t betray yourself in an effort to impress him.

When you start dating someone new, of course you want to make the best impression possible. More than anything, you want this amazing man to like you and think you’re, likewise, a wonderful person.

When you’re swept up and excited about a new romance, you may unknowingly change who you are to impress him. You may let your healthy boundaries slip (or forget them all together). But, if you don’t keep to your standards at the start of your relationship, you won’t be able to get them back down the line.

Here are 5 things you NEVER owe a man when you’re first getting to know each other. (In fact, you never owe a man these things at ANY point in your relationship.)

1. You don’t owe him an explanation about why you’re not married

Being cross-examined about why you’re “still” single puts you on the defensive. It makes you feel judged and vulnerable. There are damn good reasons why you’re single. Stop telling yourself that being married is OK and being single is not. Whether single by choice or by chance, there’s nothing wrong with you. And you don’t need to justify where you are in life.

2. You definitely don’t owe him sex before you’re ready

Just because he wants to have sex with you doesn’t mean you have to go through with it. If you feel pressure, either real or imagined, don’t do it just to make him happy (or to make him like you). Taking you out and spending his money on you does not equate to purchasing access to your body! Remember, once given, it can’t be taken back.

3. You don’t owe him monogamy (until it’s mutually agreed upon)

If a man wants exclusivity from you, even if he’s not exclusive with you, the answer is no! It’s a simple concept really: don’t commit to him more than he’s committed to you. When he’s truly serious about you he’ll agree to monogamy, and if he doesn’t, well, he’s just not ready.

4. You don’t have to drink or do drugs with him

Men who do drugs and drink usually like company, so he’ll want you to join him. Know what’s right for you and don’t change your habits or boundaries to please him. If he says you’re ruining his fun or being a prude, it’s OK; you’re not required to prove your coolness. If his drinking or drugs are an issue for you, take it seriously, otherwise you’re playing with fire.

5. You never owe him an apology for being authentically you

If he judges what you eat, what you wear, or how you look … beware. If he labels your beliefs wrong or silly, think twice. Don’t make excuses or justify your choices to a man who doesn’t “get you.” Be who you are and be proud.

Knowing what you don’t owe a man hopefully reminds you of what you DO owe yourself. Honor your own boundaries, trust that you know what is right for you, and most importantly, don’t change who you are for ANYONE (a man you’re dating or otherwise).

This article was originally published at: www.yourtango.com

Your Hidden Obstacles To Love

Obstacles to loveOne of the biggest obstacles to love I encountered when I was single was of my own making. It was my unwillingness to change. The truth is, I desperately wanted my life to be different but I didn’t want to change myself to make that happen. I was kind of hoping it would change without me having to do anything.

I was no different than many of the women I talk to in my coaching practice. I studied volumes of information on relationships and yet nothing changed, I still found myself alone. The trap was that even though I wanted things to be different I didn’t want to do things differently.

This is what we have to grapple with as human beings. Our obstacles to love are in our subconscious mind. It likes the familiar, and it’s designed to keep us surviving but not thriving. You know this is true when you look around and see so many people battling addictions, loneliness, or trying to cope in painful relationships.

If you’ve struggled with being single for a long time and believe you’ve tried everything, believe me, there’s an answer. But the answer is where you can’t see it; in your subconscious mind. You have an intuitive sense of what’s true and — when you trust it — you will be right.

It takes a good deal of [continue reading…]