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It may be a life-long dream, or an idea you’ve finally embraced after years of being single — whatever your situation — I bet somewhere in the depths of your mind you have a nagging, desperate feeling that marriage is never going to happen for you.

I know exactly how you feel.

I was single into my early 50’s — and an expert on being needy and desperate — but I changed all that. I’ve been married to the love of my life now for 15 years and I can help you do the same.

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From the Blog

The Truth About Soul Mates

the truth about soul matesI’ve never referred to my husband as my ‘soul mate.’ and here’s why.

When I was younger, I was carried away by the romantic idea of meeting my soul mate. I devoured books and movies about people falling in love and knowing they had found their “other half.” I longed to have that same experience. I imagined that somewhere, there was a man who was right for only me.

As I grew older and had a few serious relationships behind me, I began to realize that this “ideal” of finding my soul mate might not be what I was I was led to believe.

With each new relationship, especially in the “infatuation phase,” I believed I’d met my soul mate. But a soul mate isn’t a perfect person; we’re all just human after all, with faults and weaknesses. So when a relationship would end, Continue>>>

The 3 Best Qualities Of True Love

True LoveYou’ve probably thought you were experiencing true love more than a once, only to find what you were feeling was the need to feel wanted or special.

I went through this a lot when I was younger. I wouldn’t say what I was feeling at the time wasn’t love, but it just wasn’t a love that could last through time. It was selfish, centered around my own needs. The love I was in was an immature love.

I was a late bloomer when it came to love. I had to “grow up” and become a full person in my own right before I could experience true love.

Each one of us is born with the desire to be loved and cared for; it’s something that never goes away. We may lose our hair and the trim figure of our youth, but the need and desire for true love doesn’t diminish with time. As Frank A. Clark says: “A baby is born with a need to be loved and never outgrows it.”

There are more than 3 ways to know if you are experiencing true love, but these 3 are the building blocks of every strong, committed relationship. They’re also the qualities I had to make a priority when I was looking for the man I wanted to share my life with.

How you can be sure it’s true love:

  1. You fight well together.  This means you know how to disagree with each other without causing irreparable damage to the other person. In other words you don’t threaten to breakup or walk out just to get your way. You don’t use cruelty as a weapon hurt the other person. We all say things in anger at times that aren’t pretty and we regret, but it’s needs to be a rare event and not a pattern of fighting. Being able to disagree and discuss differences with respect and openness is necessary for a happy relationship.
  2. You feel safe. Dr. Phil says it best when he refers to your partner as “a soft place to fall.” God knows dealing with everyday frustrations and the craziness of the world is stressful enough. We don’t need any added pressure from those closest to us. If you can’t feel safe to be you and to express yourself in your relationship, you’re probably not feeling true love. Love can’t grow unless it nurtured with kindness.
  3. You accept each other as you are. An important indication of true love is when you can stop judging the person you’re with and see them as a unique individual with their own frialties and quirks. Judgment is one of the biggest destroyers of love and connection. Mother Teresa said it best, “If you judge people you have no time to love them.” When you judge another, the tendency is to want to change them. This is a way we tell ourselves we’re right and the other person is wrong. If you want to be right about everything you will never be happy.

True love has a special feeling about it, a sense of non-attachment. It’s a blessing that let’s us transcend our ego-based need for love and move into a place of giving love that is free from selfish motives and is unconditional.

You Can Survive Being Single On New Year’s Eve!

champagne glasses, survive being single on New Year's Eve

New Year’s Eve is one of those “couple centric holidays” that many of us dread. The pressure of not having a date on New Year’s Eve can be more daunting than not having one for Valentine’s Day.

Add to that the fear that how we end last year will have a bearing on how the New Year will unfold. It’s a superstition that’s hard to fight. If you have no one to kiss at midnight, it doesn’t bode well for your love life in the year ahead. It can leave you feeling totally discouraged and hopeless about finding love…ever.

It’s natural to feel depressed being dateless on the biggest “date night” of the year. You know there’s a fabulous party going on but you don’t know where and anyway, you’re not invited. You won’t have the opportunity to wear your favorite dress and heels. You won’t be dancing with a funny hat and blowing a noisemaker at midnight. You won’t be toasting with expensive champagne or looking deeply into a man’s eyes as you embrace and share a passionate kiss.

But you know what, you can have that experience next year if that’s what you want, and in the meantime you can have Continue>>>

The Secret To Falling In Love With You

Remember the heady feeling that takes over you when you fall for a new man? The thrill of knowing that someone you’re interested in actually wants and desires you? Suddenly, all sense of not being good enough vanishes and you feel whole again. You feel a sense of confidence in yourself that you think will never go away, you feel you have arrived at a perfect place.

But as you may have discovered — that wonderful sense of yourself disappears and will continue to do so until you create the self-esteem and confidence you want through your own actions.

It took me years to understand this, I was like a yo-yo in and out of relationships, feeling beautiful and invincible one moment, then ugly and worthless the next. I didn’t know what “loving myself” actually meant, I could give it lip-service, but I didn’t have a clue.

If you need improvement in this area here are some ideas that can help you:

1.  Set boundaries for yourself, rules that you stick by that preserve your integrity and protect you from men who don’t have your best interest at heart.

2.  Speak up for yourself, give voice to your opinions and be your own champion. No one else will do this for you. You are the only person who can truly have your best interest at heart all the time. You can only build up your sense of worthiness by taking good care of yourself. Continue>>>