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It may be a life-long dream, or an idea you’ve finally embraced after years of being single — whatever your situation — I bet somewhere in the depths of your mind you have a nagging, desperate feeling that marriage is never going to happen for you.

I know exactly how you feel.

I was single into my early 50’s — and an expert on being needy and desperate — but I changed all that. I’ve been married to the love of my life now for 11 years and I can help you do the same.

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From the Blog

How To Avoid This Common Dating Mistake

dating mistake“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” ~Antoine de St Exupery, The Little Prince

And so it is with dating. It’s easy to judge a man the moment you meet him and make a snap decision of his worth. First impressions are important, but they aren’t the whole story. You must get beyond your first impression of the man in front of you.

If you pay too much attention to what you’re seeing and thinking you’ll miss a lot. It’s a dating mistake we all make. But if you focus on your feelings (your heart) it will give you much more accurate information than your eyes ever will.

If you’re not initially thrilled with what you see, don’t just shut down. You may miss out on a wonderful human being. I almost did myself. When I met my husband my first reaction was disappointment. I couldn’t get past how he looked. At that time he had [click to continue…]

Are You Falling In Love Too Fast?

falling in love too fastDear Virginia,
I’m 39, never been married & I don’t have children. Up to this point I understand that I’ve picked men who are unsuitable & I have certainly learned what I don’t want. However, I’ve been dating a man for only a month, it’s been a long time since I’ve felt such an attraction to a man in all areas. How do I enjoy the courtship? Right now, all I’m doing is obsessing about how I get him to be exclusive with me. This is all after just one month? I just want this to work & I don’t understand why I’ve pinned all my hopes on something so new. Please help! Doris

I know exactly what Doris is talking about and I feel her pain. Hers is a common problem. It doesn’t matter your age or intelligence, we’re all susceptible to obsessing over a man and falling in love too fast.

Why do we get attached so quickly? We know we shouldn’t and it certainly doesn’t feel good. We end up feeling anxious, scared and out of control. It’s like our emotions are on a runaway train we can’t stop. Our authentic self, which is the loveable part of us, gets pushed aside and the more insecure parts of us take over.

Like Doris, we’re afraid [click to continue…]

Put Down The Book And Listen To Yourself First

listen to yourselfIf I had taken to heart the many relationship books I read and followed their “rules,” I wouldn’t be married today. I’m sure you’ve read them, too, the books that tell you that if he hasn’t proposed by the end of the first year, dump him!

When I was single I was hungry for advice about relationships. I went to seminars and must have read over 100 “how to” books on love. Because I didn’t meet my husband until I was 46 my search went on for years. For all that time I felt like a leaf blowing in the wind at the mercy of the many opinions I was taking in.

I not only tried to find my way through books but I consulted my share of psychics and astrologers. Like most single women, I had the best intentions; I wanted to find out how to meet and marry the right man for me.

But as I got older and matured I realized that [click to continue…]

If Your Man Does These 3 Things, Don’t Marry Him

marry himDon’t say “I Do” until you’re sure none of these apply to your guy …

You might think you’ve found the man you want to marry and now it’s just a matter of making it happen. Whether you have a specific man in mind, or if Mr. Right hasn’t shown up yet, I would like you to take into account the “3 A’s” before committing to marriage.

I learned the 3 A’s from a therapist friend of mine many years ago. I told her I didn’t want to marry just any man; I wanted to find a man of quality. She gave the 3 A’s to me as a warning of what to avoid in a husband. I thought I understood them and I believed I’d taken them to heart.

But even though I knew what they were, I found myself getting involved with men who embodied one of the three. Surprise, surprise, every one of those relationships was painful … and not a single one of them lasted.

No matter how secure you are in what you want, you can still be fooled. Despite your best intentions you can find yourself  read more>>>

Attract True Love Being Yourself

your authentic selfTo attract true love, being your authentic self is a necessity. But it’s not easy. You want to be authentic but you end up becoming more the person you think you’re expected to be.

Subconsciously you may take on the qualities you think a man wants you to have. This can happen without you being aware, making it hard for you to recognize.

Or you may choose consciously to present yourself the way you think a man wants you to be. In either case, it’s not always easy to separate what you’ve adapted from what is truly organic to who you are.

If you neglect to be your authentic self it’s only a matter of time until your true self is revealed. I learned the hard way [click to continue…]

10 Reasons You’re Not Getting What You Want From Men

what you want from menAre you a woman who’d rather stay quiet and go without, rather than ask a man for what you want? Sadly, you’re not alone.

Society raises women to think of other people first, so it’s no wonder we feel that our needs are not important.

If you don’t have the confidence to ask for what you want, doing so can seem as frightening or as painful as a root canal.

But if you don’t ask, how will you ever get what you need? It’s like hearing a constant “no.”

Any relationship, and especially marriage, requires the art of compromise. You have to express your needs if you’re going to create a life with someone. It’s the only way to take a relationship from “just dating” to “happily ever after”.

Don’t despair—you just have to learn what works. Once you do, you’ll actually enjoy expressing your wants and needs.

Here are 10 reasons you’re not getting what you want:

1. You’re not clear.

Before you ask a man for anything, be crystal clear about what you want. Express your need in a simple sentence; don’t make it complicated by over-explaining. If you’re straight forward, it will appeal to a man’s more logical mind and he’ll get a clear picture of what you’re asking for.

2. You don’t know why you want it.

If you don’t know why you want what you want, you won’t make a good argument for your case. You have to give him clear and concise reasons so it makes sense to his (once again) logical mind.

3. You’re indirect and wishy-washy.

Don’t beat around the bush. It’s okay to  Continue Reading>>>