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13 Tips to Quickly Stop Being Single

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Are you afraid you’ll never have the right man in your life, a man who loves and cherishes you? Do you long for a man who wants to commit to you fully and actually marry you?

If he hasn’t show up yet it may be because you’re unknowingly keeping love away. Just making a small change in your behavior can create a big change in your love life.

Here are 13 Tips to help bring you the love you’ve been seeking:

1. Don’t Rush! Be Patient. Being impatient causes frustration and stress. Take it slow. Let things happen. Let go of the outcome. Trust that everything will work out. Being single it’s hard not to feel desperate and needy. Hold the thought that the man who is right for you will show up at the right time and place. With patience you’ll be happier and more available to receive the gift of love when it shows up.

2. Feed Your Soul. Find a positive spiritual practice or teaching. Negative and hopeless people are not attractive. They repel love and make themselves and others miserable. It’s hard to stay positive if you tell yourself the same negative messages over and over again. Give yourself quick access to books, CD’s, movies, music, food, wine and people that can support you, make you happy, keep you positive and in balance, and help you stay hopeful.

3. Look! Don’t Judge. Observe before you jump to any conclusions. Stop rushing to judgment with the men you meet. Stop assuming the negative. It is a turn off that chases people away. Mother Teresa says, “If you judge other people you have no time to love them.” Wake up! Open your eyes to every man who you meet and you might just meet the love of your life.

4. Do What Makes You Happy. Put your happiness first. Avoid looking for love in all the wrong places. Go where you enjoy the locations and get involved in the activities that you really enjoy. Have a good time. That’s when you will be most naturally attractive and that’s when the right man will turn up.

5. Establish Boundaries and Stick to Them. Define your expectations. Write them down. Know when someone is right for you and know when it’s time to drop everything and run away. Establish “rules” and use them to keep you safe. You won’t fly with the eagles if you hang around with the turkeys. Know when to say NO. Then say NEXT!

6. Change Things Up. Love won’t necessarily walk into your life if you only do things where you feel safe. Doing the same things repeatedly and expecting a new result is insanity defined. To get a new outcome you need to do new things. Shake things up. Ask yourself what you’ve been afraid of doing. It’s usually the exact thing you need to get revitalized. Try a Yoga or cooking class. Go to the library. Join a health club or hiking group. Help out in your community. Try something different. Learn something new. Meet new people who like what you like.

7. Remodel Your Space. Creating the right environment at work and at home sets the stage for love. Your office is your fortress and your home is your sanctuary! Reflect who you are. Surround yourself Continue>>>

5 Things You NEVER Owe A Man You’re Dating (Now, Or Ever!)

a man you're dating

Don’t betray yourself in an effort to impress him.

When you start dating someone new, of course you want to make the best impression possible. More than anything, you want this amazing man to like you and think you’re, likewise, a wonderful person.

When you’re swept up and excited about a new romance, you may unknowingly change who you are to impress him. You may let your healthy boundaries slip (or forget them all together). But, if you don’t keep to your standards at the start of your relationship, you won’t be able to get them back down the line.

Here are 5 things you NEVER owe a man when you’re first getting to know each other. (In fact, you never owe a man these things at ANY point in your relationship.)

1. You don’t owe him an explanation about why you’re not married

Being cross-examined about why you’re “still” single puts you on the defensive. It makes you feel judged and vulnerable. There are damn good reasons why you’re single. Stop telling yourself that being married is OK and being single is not. Whether single by choice or by chance, there’s nothing wrong with you. And you don’t need to justify where you are in life.

2. You definitely don’t owe him sex before you’re ready

Just because he wants to have sex with you doesn’t mean you have to go through with it. If you feel pressure, either real or imagined, don’t do it just to make him happy (or to make him like you). Taking you out and spending his money on you does not equate to purchasing access to your body! Remember, once given, it can’t be taken back.

3. You don’t owe him monogamy (until it’s mutually agreed upon)

If a man wants exclusivity from you, even if he’s not exclusive with you, the answer is no! It’s a simple concept really: don’t commit to him more than he’s committed to you. When he’s truly serious about you he’ll agree to monogamy, and if he doesn’t, well, he’s just not ready.

4. You don’t have to drink or do drugs with him

Men who do drugs and drink usually like company, so he’ll want you to join him. Know what’s right for you and don’t change your habits or boundaries to please him. If he says you’re ruining his fun or being a prude, it’s OK; you’re not required to prove your coolness. If his drinking or drugs are an issue for you, take it seriously, otherwise you’re playing with fire.

5. You never owe him an apology for being authentically you

If he judges what you eat, what you wear, or how you look … beware. If he labels your beliefs wrong or silly, think twice. Don’t make excuses or justify your choices to a man who doesn’t “get you.” Be who you are and be proud.

Knowing what you don’t owe a man hopefully reminds you of what you DO owe yourself. Honor your own boundaries, trust that you know what is right for you, and most importantly, don’t change who you are for ANYONE (a man you’re dating or otherwise).

This article was originally published at: www.yourtango.com

4 Steps To Create Healthy Boundaries When Dating

4 steps to create healthy boundaries when datingHealthy boundaries in your relationships don’t just happen, they require discipline and will power. I know this sounds about as appealing as going on a diet, but without healthy boundaries you will end up a victim of a man’s bad behavior.

Why do you need to make the effort to stick to your personal boundaries? They give you self-respect. They’re how you take care of and protect your mind, body and spirit. They give you a say in how you want your relationship to unfold; how much to give of yourself and when.

Setting healthy boundaries is the most important skill you need to have successful relationships. However, for many women, this can be very challenging. If you are someone who finds it hard to say “no,” boundaries will be particularly difficult to stick to.

How To Set Healthy Boundaries When Dating:

  1. Look back on your past relationships. Identify the things you know you should have done differently. List the mistakes you made that worked against you. I bet the majority, if not all, involved you letting down your boundaries in some way. Take your time with this process, if you’re thorough you’ll most likely find a pattern of behavior.
  2. Create a new healthy boundaries list. Use what you’ve learned from your past mistakes to make the changes you need now. See if there are any new boundaries that you would like to add, including social media and internet dating.
  3. Determine to make your well-being a priority.  This may sound selfish or self-centered to you — it is! You can’t rely Continue>>>

Still Single? If You Exist So Does He!

still single, if you exist so does heBecause of what I do, the majority of women I talk to are still single after trying to find the right man to marry for years. They’re discouraged and most of them are afraid they’ll never meet the love they’re longing for.  They lose faith that it’s ever going to happen for them as they see the people around them finding partners.

They tell me that because they live in a certain city or small town, there aren’t any men for them to date who’d be a good match. They judge where they live and can’t imagine meeting a man there who they would be attracted to or want to marry.

But it doesn’t make sense that if you live somewhere, no matter how you feel about it; your perfect match wouldn’t be there too. If you’re right for each other, your lives will bring you to where you can finally meet.

If you’re still single after suffering through a lot of failed relationships you may wonder why it hasn’t happened yet. But Let’s face it, he isn’t going to come knocking on your door while you’re watching TV. He won’t just show up one day and ask you out without you making an effort.

You may think there’s nothing you haven’t already tried, so why bother. But there may be things you’ve done in the past that you no longer do to attract love. You need to be ready for a relationship when the right man shows up.

Here are some things you need that you may have forgotten to help you find him, right now.

You need to love yourself. If you don’t believe you’re lovable or deserving of love, you’ll pick the wrong man every time. You’ll pick a man who’s damaged and unable to love you fully. Once you love who you are you’ll be available to accept love from a healthy man.

You need to get out of your house. To have a great love in your life you have to meet him first! If you stay at home and don’t extend yourself into society, how are you going to find a partner? It’s easy to retreat and feel safe, but finding love demands that you take risks and leave your comfort zone.

You need to believe he exists. If there’s truth to idea that our thoughts create our reality, you’ll want to err on the side of belief. Walking through life without hope or faith that there’s someone for you is sad and lonely. It’s like walking through life with blinders on. You’ll only be able to see what you believe, so he could walk right by you without you knowing.

I’m frequently asked if I believe there’s someone for everyone. I always answer with complete confidence; YES OF COURSE! IF YOU EXIST SO DOES HE!