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It may be a life-long dream, or an idea you’ve finally embraced after years of being single — whatever your situation — I bet somewhere in the depths of your mind you have a nagging, desperate feeling that marriage is never going to happen for you.

I know exactly how you feel.

I was single into my early 50’s — and an expert on being needy and desperate — but I changed all that. I’ve been married to the love of my life now for 11 years and I can help you do the same.

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From the Blog

Let’s Take The Time To Give Thanks

At Thanksgiving we are reminded to celebrate what we have and to give thanks. When we feel grateful life is full.

Here are some of my favorite quotes on gratitude:

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.” – Thornton Wilder

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” – Oprah Winfrey

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” – William James

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” ~Melody Beattie

I’m so grateful for the pleasure of connecting with you, may you have a most wonderful Thanksgiving experience!

Why You Can’t Find A Good Man

find a good manWhen I was single, the reason I couldn’t find a good man was my habit of “wishful hoping.” I am long past that now, but as a coach I find “wishful hoping” is probably one of the key factors that make finding your true love take so long.

“Wishful hoping” is very similar to being in a state of longing. You may understand it better if I share with you this definition of longing by Gay Hendricks:

“Longing is a persistent lingering feeling of wanting something you can’t quite get or something you’ve judged unattainable.”

To find a good man you must be honest about what it is you believe a good man to be. If you find yourself making excuses about a man’s bad behavior it’s time to re-evaluate your standards.

So what are some of the ways “wishful hoping” can show up around your relationships? Here are some examples:

  • Waiting for a man to leave his wife or break-up with his girlfriend.
  • Waiting for a man to drink less or stop doing drugs.
  • Making excuses for a man when he doesn’t call or email you as promised.
  • Continually paying for everything when he’s promised to look for work.
  • Waiting for a man to take care of himself or lose weight.
  • Waiting for a man to finally be “ready” to commit to you.

There are exceptions to some of these situations of course, but you get the idea.

When you’re longing Continue>>>

3 Tips To Help You Ask For A Commitment

ask for a commitmentAs a child you probably got the message that drawing attention to yourself was self-centered and you shouldn’t make waves. That’s why you probably find it difficult to speak up for yourself, especially in relationships. The more important the problem, like whether or not to ask for a commitment, the harder it gets.

Asking for what you want and need from your partner is essential for a healthy give and take. If you’re afraid to speak up for yourself you’ll find there’s no one else who will. You have to learn how to do it, after all you’re 50% of the couple and you need to have a say as it changes and deepens.

This was one of the hardest things for me to overcome. I would let too much time go by, afraid to speak up about the future. But eventually my worry and anxiety would get the better of me and cause me to blurt something out — but never at the right time or using the right words.

I describe how this happened to me,“How I Sort of Proposed,” in chapter 4 of my book “It’s Never Too Late To Marry.” My inability to express myself in that relationship contributed a great deal to its breakup.

If now is the time (or it’s past the time) to finally bring up the subject of your future together and ask for a commitment here are 3 tips that will make it easier:

1. Don’t start this conversation when you’re upset.

If you’ve been bottling up your feelings for too long, you may reach a boiling point where out of the blue you attack him with anger and blame. Most men get Continue>>>

Don’t Snoop, Don’t Assume And Ask The Hard Questions

Cleaning out old papers I came upon this short story I wrote 28 years ago. I was writing about myself but didn’t realize it then. I had no idea that years later I’d be a relationship coach using my experiences to help other women avoid these pitfalls: don’t snoop, don’t assume and don’t avoid asking the hard questions.

Don't spy don't assume don't avoid the hard questionsWhen Bruce put his key into the door, he was surprised to find it unlocked. A warning shot through his body. He carefully pulled the key out and ever so slowly opened the door.

The lights were on and standing in the middle of the living room was Marie.

“What are doing?” he began, but stopped when he saw her face. An automatic feeling of guilt washed over him but he couldn’t imagine what he had done wrong.

“You’re married, you bastard! You lied to me!”

“Wait a minute…” This was the last thing he expected. It was impossible for her to know.

“How long before you were going to tell me?”

“Tell you what? There’s nothing to tell and what are you doing in my apartment?” Damn her. He felt cornered and didn’t like it.

“I said when were you going to tell me?”

“What are you doing here, Marie?”

“She called, I shouldn’t have picked up but I couldn’t Continue>>>