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5 Things You NEVER Owe A Man You’re Dating (Now, Or Ever!)

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Don’t betray yourself in an effort to impress him.

When you start dating someone new, of course you want to make the best impression possible. More than anything, you want this amazing man to like you and think you’re, likewise, a wonderful person.

When you’re swept up and excited about a new romance, you may unknowingly change who you are to impress him. You may let your healthy boundaries slip (or forget them all together). But, if you don’t keep to your standards at the start of your relationship, you won’t be able to get them back down the line.

Here are 5 things you NEVER owe a man when you’re first getting to know each other. (In fact, you never owe a man these things at ANY point in your relationship.)

1. You don’t owe him an explanation about why you’re not married

Being cross-examined about why you’re “still” single puts you on the defensive. It makes you feel judged and vulnerable. There are damn good reasons why you’re single. Stop telling yourself that being married is OK and being single is not. Whether single by choice or by chance, there’s nothing wrong with you. And you don’t need to justify where you are in life.

2. You definitely don’t owe him sex before you’re ready

Just because he wants to have sex with you doesn’t mean you have to go through with it. If you feel pressure, either real or imagined, don’t do it just to make him happy (or to make him like you). Taking you out and spending his money on you does not equate to purchasing access to your body! Remember, once given, it can’t be taken back.

3. You don’t owe him monogamy (until it’s mutually agreed upon)

If a man wants exclusivity from you, even if he’s not exclusive with you, the answer is no! It’s a simple concept really: don’t commit to him more than he’s committed to you. When he’s truly serious about you he’ll agree to monogamy, and if he doesn’t, well, he’s just not ready.

4. You don’t have to drink or do drugs with him

Men who do drugs and drink usually like company, so he’ll want you to join him. Know what’s right for you and don’t change your habits or boundaries to please him. If he says you’re ruining his fun or being a prude, it’s OK; you’re not required to prove your coolness. If his drinking or drugs are an issue for you, take it seriously, otherwise you’re playing with fire.

5. You never owe him an apology for being authentically you

If he judges what you eat, what you wear, or how you look … beware. If he labels your beliefs wrong or silly, think twice. Don’t make excuses or justify your choices to a man who doesn’t “get you.” Be who you are and be proud.

Knowing what you don’t owe a man hopefully reminds you of what you DO owe yourself. Honor your own boundaries, trust that you know what is right for you, and most importantly, don’t change who you are for ANYONE (a man you’re dating or otherwise).

This article was originally published at: www.yourtango.com

4 Steps To Create Healthy Boundaries When Dating

4 steps to create healthy boundaries when datingHealthy boundaries in your relationships don’t just happen, they require discipline and will power. I know this sounds about as appealing as going on a diet, but without healthy boundaries you will end up a victim of a man’s bad behavior.

Why do you need to make the effort to stick to your personal boundaries? They give you self-respect. They’re how you take care of and protect your mind, body and spirit. They give you a say in how you want your relationship to unfold; how much to give of yourself and when.

Setting healthy boundaries is the most important skill you need to have successful relationships. However, for many women, this can be very challenging. If you are someone who finds it hard to say “no,” boundaries will be particularly difficult to stick to.

How To Set Healthy Boundaries When Dating:

  1. Look back on your past relationships. Identify the things you know you should have done differently. List the mistakes you made that worked against you. I bet the majority, if not all, involved you letting down your boundaries in some way. Take your time with this process, if you’re thorough you’ll most likely find a pattern of behavior.
  2. Create a new healthy boundaries list. Use what you’ve learned from your past mistakes to make the changes you need now. See if there are any new boundaries that you would like to add, including social media and internet dating.
  3. Determine to make your well-being a priority.  This may sound selfish or self-centered to you — it is! You can’t rely Continue>>>

Still Single? If You Exist So Does He!

still single, if you exist so does heBecause of what I do, the majority of women I talk to are still single after trying to find the right man to marry for years. They’re discouraged and most of them are afraid they’ll never meet the love they’re longing for.  They lose faith that it’s ever going to happen for them as they see the people around them finding partners.

They tell me that because they live in a certain city or small town, there aren’t any men for them to date who’d be a good match. They judge where they live and can’t imagine meeting a man there who they would be attracted to or want to marry.

But it doesn’t make sense that if you live somewhere, no matter how you feel about it; your perfect match wouldn’t be there too. If you’re right for each other, your lives will bring you to where you can finally meet.

If you’re still single after suffering through a lot of failed relationships you may wonder why it hasn’t happened yet. But Let’s face it, he isn’t going to come knocking on your door while you’re watching TV. He won’t just show up one day and ask you out without you making an effort.

You may think there’s nothing you haven’t already tried, so why bother. But there may be things you’ve done in the past that you no longer do to attract love. You need to be ready for a relationship when the right man shows up.

Here are some things you need that you may have forgotten to help you find him, right now.

You need to love yourself. If you don’t believe you’re lovable or deserving of love, you’ll pick the wrong man every time. You’ll pick a man who’s damaged and unable to love you fully. Once you love who you are you’ll be available to accept love from a healthy man.

You need to get out of your house. To have a great love in your life you have to meet him first! If you stay at home and don’t extend yourself into society, how are you going to find a partner? It’s easy to retreat and feel safe, but finding love demands that you take risks and leave your comfort zone.

You need to believe he exists. If there’s truth to idea that our thoughts create our reality, you’ll want to err on the side of belief. Walking through life without hope or faith that there’s someone for you is sad and lonely. It’s like walking through life with blinders on. You’ll only be able to see what you believe, so he could walk right by you without you knowing.

I’m frequently asked if I believe there’s someone for everyone. I always answer with complete confidence; YES OF COURSE! IF YOU EXIST SO DOES HE!

10 Troubling Signs You Might Be A Victim Of Emotional Abuse

emotional abuseThis behavior is not normal and it’s not OK. (You deserve so much better.)

Just like an alcoholic denies their drinking problem, people in emotionally abusive relationships often default to denial as well.

There’s a common thread that runs through every abusive relationship — fear.

An abuser of any kind is an expert at making you afraid in big and subtle ways. Here are classic, sinister ways your partner actively makes you a victim of emotional abuse:

  1. Destroying your self-esteem with constant put-downs
  2. Bullying you so you feel weak and helpless
  3. Insulting you so you think no one else would ever want you
  4. Controlling you by dictating what’s right or best for you
  5. Criticizes you so you no longer trust yourself
  6. Making you dependent by destroying your confidence
  7. Focusing only on your faults so you forget your value
  8. Creating a “you” against “them” dynamic, separating you from others
  9. Insisting his needs are the priority, so you ignore your own
  10. Keeping you guessing so you can never feel safe

When you recognize you’re with an emotional abuser, it’s not easy to free yourself from their tight grip. The relationship has most likely sapped your strength and weakened your will. Separating from your partner’s manipulative Continue>>>