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From the Blog

Don’t Snoop, Don’t Assume And Ask The Hard Questions

Cleaning out old papers I came upon this short story I wrote 28 years ago. I was writing about myself but didn’t realize it then. I had no idea that years later I’d be a relationship coach using my experiences to help other women avoid these pitfalls: don’t snoop, don’t assume and don’t avoid asking the hard questions.

Don't spy don't assume don't avoid the hard questionsWhen Bruce put his key into the door, he was surprised to find it unlocked. A warning shot through his body. He carefully pulled the key out and ever so slowly opened the door.

The lights were on and standing in the middle of the living room was Marie.

“What are doing?” he began, but stopped when he saw her face. An automatic feeling of guilt washed over him but he couldn’t imagine what he had done wrong.

“You’re married, you bastard! You lied to me!”

“Wait a minute…” This was the last thing he expected. It was impossible for her to know.

“How long before you were going to tell me?”

“Tell you what? There’s nothing to tell and what are you doing in my apartment?” Damn her. He felt cornered and didn’t like it.

“I said when were you going to tell me?”

“What are you doing here, Marie?”

“She called, I shouldn’t have picked up but I couldn’t Continue>>>

Why Breakups Happen

Why breakups happenI get excited when someone expresses truth in a powerful way. That’s why I’m sharing with you what Jeff Brown expresses so beautifully.

It reminded me of the many breakups I went through when I thought I needed to know the reason, “why?” I felt that only through understanding what went wrong could my broken heart and shattered ego be healed.

This is an excerpt from his book “An Uncommon Bond.”

“Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another—they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives —they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love’s leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don’t—they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path: Readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover.”

10 Troubling Signs You Might Be A Victim Of Emotional Abuse

emotional abuseThis behavior is not normal and it’s not OK. (You deserve so much better.)

Just like an alcoholic denies their drinking problem, people in emotionally abusive relationships often default to denial as well.

There’s a common thread that runs through every abusive relationship — fear.

An abuser of any kind is an expert at making you afraid in big and subtle ways. Here are classic, sinister ways your partner actively makes you a victim of emotional abuse:

  1. Destroying your self-esteem with constant put-downs
  2. Bullying you so you feel weak and helpless
  3. Insulting you so you think no one else would ever want you
  4. Controlling you by dictating what’s right or best for you
  5. Criticizes you so you no longer trust yourself
  6. Making you dependent by destroying your confidence
  7. Focusing only on your faults so you forget your value
  8. Creating a “you” against “them” dynamic, separating you from others
  9. Insisting his needs are the priority, so you ignore your own
  10. Keeping you guessing so you can never feel safe

When you recognize you’re with an emotional abuser, it’s not easy to free yourself from their tight grip. The relationship has most likely sapped your strength and weakened your will. Separating from your partner’s manipulative Continue>>>

3 Qualities That Can Save Your Relationship

save your relationshipIt’s common knowledge that kindness, honesty and respect are necessary ingredients for a good relationship. However, there are three other qualities that are often overlooked and are just as important. They can save your relationship.

If you master these three qualities you’re relationships will have a much better chance of lasting a lifetime.

1. Open-mindedness. The definition: “Willing to consider new ideas; unprejudiced.”

No matter how many relationships you’ve had, it’s always an adjustment to deal with a man who has different interests and opinions than you.

You will find yourself thinking, “I can’t believe he thinks this is a good way to spend his time,” or “Why does he always react that way, it makes no sense.”

It’s difficult to accept or respect someone else’s point of view, especially when to you it just seems wrong. We think he Continue>>>