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It may be a life-long dream, or an idea you’ve finally embraced after years of being single — whatever your situation — I bet somewhere in the depths of your mind you have a nagging, desperate feeling that marriage is never going to happen for you.
I know exactly how you feel.
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by Virginia Clark
on July 2, 2014
We all have fears, some are obvious and easy to identify, but others can hide just below the surface of our awareness. Nothing will bring out our hidden fears faster than when we are in a relationship. When given the possibility of falling in love they can take over, and many times we don’t recognize what’s going on.
When fears play out in our relationships they will stop us from connecting with a man and keep love at a distance. If we’re having a hard time sustaining relationships or keep getting involved with the wrong men, it’s most likely our fears that are taking over. The stronger the fear the greater the influence they have on our ability to have a healthy love life.
Some of the most common hidden fears are:
- Fear of not being enough for a man.
- Fear of being wrong.
- Fear of being unlovable.
These fears show up because real love requires that we be vulnerable and that can make us very uncomfortable. Vulnerability implies intimacy and that can be just plain scary. So our fears will try to take control the situation by putting us on the defensive and we don’t even know it’s happening.
A defense is something we use to protect ourselves. In the dictionary a defense is referred to as “guarding, fortification; resistance, deterrent.” A defensive response is referred to as “self-justifying, oversensitive, prickly, paranoid, uptight.”
Our defenses have protected us since birth and some are necessary for our survival. But as we get older many are no longer needed for our safety. However, they can feel so familiar we continue to let them dictate how we respond even when they have no purpose. Our fears become so practiced they feel like a natural part of our personality.
Here’s an example of how [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on May 21, 2014
When you start a new relationship, it’s a heady feeling. This is especially true if you’ve been single a long time while looking for love. The excitement of a new relationship can put stars in your eyes. But it can also give you a false sense of security, as you find yourself thinking, “he likes me, he really likes me!”
As you feel more confident and comfortable around a man, you can unknowingly become more like his buddy than his girlfriend. It’s a common mistake you might be making that will stop love in its tracks, before its even had time to grow.
The trap is that once you’re in a new relationship and you know a man really likes you, you may start to take his feelings for granted.
How do you know if this is happening? You’ll find that you begin to over-do and over-think things — all in the name of trying to make the relationship better.
Now that you “have” him, you start to push for things to be the way you want them and for what you believe should happen. In other words, you have an agenda for what you think the relationship should be. You find yourself [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on April 29, 2014
Until you’ve cultivated the non-negotiable qualities you’re looking for in a man in yourself you won’t recognize a man who has them. You won’t find true love, infact he’ll walk right by you and you won’t even see him.
This may be hard to accept but I know through my own experience and those of my clients that this is true. The “problems” we’re unaware of in ourselves (we all have them) are the same “problems” we’ll be blind to in the men we meet.
I’ve run into a lot of resistance from women regarding their blind spots. Let’s face it; it’s hard to believe you have something that you can’t see. It’s the same when we’re dealing with our subconscious beliefs, it can be very tricky. That’s why they’re called “blind” or “subconscious,” it’s all about discovering what we don’t know is there. This is always a challenge, but once you do the work, it’s always completely enlightening and life changing.
One way you can uncover your blind spots is to make a list of the 50 qualities you want in a husband or life partner. From there, you identify which qualities are “non-negotiable.” or the qualities you absolutely must have in a man. This exercise will help you get your deal-breakers on paper to refer to and to use in your search for Mr. Right.
This list isn’t a new idea — but it’s one that works. A counselor asked me to make a similar list 20 years ago when I was single and looking for love. There’s a reason she asked me to do this, but it wasn’t why I thought. As it turned out [continue reading…]
by Virginia Clark
on February 25, 2014
Honestly, sometimes when a woman opens up to me, I can’t help but be blunt with her. It’s just the way things sometimes happen.
I’ve learned to trust my intuition when I work because I’m clear about why I do what I do. I’m devoted to helping women, like you, transform your love life. I want every woman I work with to feel like a queen so she can have her king.
As you can see from this letter I received, sometimes it only takes the right words to open someone’s eyes and send them on the way to love. I should probably be upset with myself for using such “unprofessional” words, but occasionally it’s just what is needed.
Hi Virginia,
I just wanted to tell you I had a breakthrough call with you a few months ago. I had just left a man for another and it was painfully obvious it wasn’t working out and he was treating me poorly. I was very much in love with him, but frustrated.
I told you I felt I was done with it but I was confused and felt pretty miserable about yet another failed love relationship. I was heart broken. You’re exact words to me were, ‘he’s an asshole’ — and I really heard you, lol!
It changed something in me. I’ve been doing a lot of work on myself since then and, wouldn’t you know, a friend introduced me to a wonderful, respectful, nice, amazing man. She had been trying to connect us for two years but I was always in another relationship. We are happily dating and very much in love. He is different from the other men I’ve dated and that’s a really good thing. We have a mutual love and respect for each other and I am so happy.
I believe you had a part in opening my eyes so I could allow something better to come into my life and I just wanted to thank you.
Much love to you,
Marla
