Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

“Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of Heaven.”
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

It’s not easy to extend love when you’re not being loved in return. We can be selfish creatures, unwilling to love unless we know that love will come back to us.

So after a breakup, especially one we don’t want, it’s a challenge to stay in a loving place. It’s a choice we can make, but it goes against all our instincts.

It’s a natural reaction to want to strike back when a man withdraws his love from us. We want to lash out and inflict the pain we’re feeling back onto him. We will blame him and curse him. We’ll call him heartless, cold and immature. We do all this and more to defend ourselves from the pain of rejection.

We attempt to appease our feelings by attacking, believing we’ll at least feel better if we’re not alone in our misery. When they withdraw their love we react by doing the same to them. The old “tit for tat.”

The truth of this strategy is that it is the easy way out. All this does is take us away from love and make us miserable. We forget any good we had in the past and call everything

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It’s impossible not to be aware of women trying to look younger than their years. We go to the movies and our favorite stars look strangely unfamiliar. Actresses we’ve enjoyed watching over time suddenly lose their unique look that made us fall in love with them. We see a face that hasn’t changed in 30 years and can’t help but be distracted looking for any telltale sign of aging that we know should be there.

Today as I write this I’m 66 yrs old. Am I thrilled to be this old? Yes and No. When I think about some of my friends and family members who are no longer here living their lives, I’m filled with gratitude for my many years. When I reflect on all I’ve learned from the wide variety of people and experiences that have filled my life up till now, yes, I appreciate my 66 years.

But like you, I am susceptible to the steady stream of images, jokes and stories about the horrors of being a woman whose getting older.

Plastic surgery and other age-defying methods have become the norm in the images of women we see around us everywhere. On magazine covers, even 20-something models are airbrushed to greater perfection. Volume is added to hair, breasts and lips, and erased from waists, hips and thighs.
Nothing we see in the media is an accurate depiction of the changes a real woman goes through as she ages. So how can we not be upset about [continue reading…]

There’s nothing worse than feeling a man’s interest start to slip. The last thing you want to face is that his feelings for you may be waning. All too often, at the first sign he’s withdrawing, we lose our sanity and we panic.

When we’re in this fearful place we become insecure. We assume his pulling away is because of us so we blame and beat ourselves up. As a defense against the pain, we make excuses for him, “he’s too busy at work” or “he has too much going on right now.”

Instead of investigating the changes that may be happening in the relationship, we go into desperation mode. We cling to how great the relationship used to be rather than acknowledging what’s going on in the present. We put our focus on strategies to get him back and engaged. We ignore the fact that his behavior is telling us important information, the fact that something’s wrong.

All these reactions are ways we try to avoid heartbreak. But they don’t work. There’s a much better way to handle the reality of your partner pulling away that just might save your relationship. It requires you to challenge your fears and be willing to face the truth of what’s going on.

It requires that you have a face-to-face (not texting) conversation with your man so you can bring up what you’re feeling before it’s too late. If you don’t [continue reading…]