Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

Sometimes I think marriage is wasted on the young. The qualities that insure a happy marriage are those most of us only begin to master after going through many painful life lessons. I didn’t marry for the first time until I was 53 years old, and by that time I had been through so many rocky relationships that I was “forced” into learning how to be a better woman.

Pain was my greatest teacher. I finally stopped using it as an excuse to feel sorry for myself and began to pay attention to how it was asking me to change. The arrogance of youth kept me very self-centered and wanting relationships to go my way. For a long time I neglected to cultivate and nurture the qualities that I needed to have a healthy marriage.

Here are the five qualities I began to explore and develop within myself. I could write a book on each one, so I will touch on them only briefly. To me they are all necessary components of a healthy and happy marriage. [continue reading…]

There’s no way to avoid having a Big Talk with your partner at some point in your relationship. It will happen more for some of us than others, but whether you’ve been together 40 years or a couple of weeks it’s going to be a challenge and cause you stress.

A Big Talk is never easy. We naturally know what we want the outcome to be but there’s no way we can predict how our partner will react. After all we wouldn’t be having the Big Talk unless there was something important we’ve held on to and not expressed or shared.

Here are 3 tips to make your Big Talk a success.

1. Do not have the talk until you feel calm and confident. You must be free of anger or blame or you’ll trigger the same in your partner. If you portray yourself as a victim he will get defensive because that’s making him the “bad guy.” He won’t hear what you’re trying to tell him. You must be open to what your partner tells you without making him wrong. I will repeat that. You must be open to what your partner tells you without making him wrong.

2. Believe in what you have to say or don’t say it. Unless you’re ready to stick up for yourself you better not get into a Big Talk. Backing down or changing your position because of fear of his reaction or losing him makes you [continue reading…]

Are you afraid you’ll never have the right man in your life, a man who loves and cherishes you? Do you long for a man who wants to commit to you fully and actually marry you?

If he hasn’t show up yet it may be because you’re unknowingly keeping love away. Just making a small change in your behavior can create a big change in your love life.

Here are 13 Tips to help bring you the love you’ve been seeking:

1. Don’t Rush! Be Patient. Being impatient causes frustration and stress. Take it slow. Let things happen. Let go of the outcome. Trust that everything will work out. Being single it’s hard not to feel desperate and needy. Hold the thought that the man who is right for you will show up at the right time and place. With patience you’ll be happier and more available to receive the gift of love when it shows up.

2. Feed Your Soul. Find a positive spiritual practice or teaching. Negative and hopeless people are not attractive. They repel love and make themselves and others miserable. It’s hard to stay positive if you tell yourself the same negative messages over and over again. Give yourself quick access to books, CD’s, movies, music, food, wine and people that can support you, make you happy, keep you positive and in balance, and help you stay hopeful.

3. Look! Don’t Judge. Observe before you jump to any conclusions. Stop rushing to judgment with the men you meet. Stop assuming the negative. It is a turn off that chases people away. Mother Teresa says, “If you judge other people you have no time to love them.” Wake up! Open your eyes to every man who you meet and you might just meet the love of your life.

4. Do What Makes You Happy. Put your happiness first. Avoid looking for love in all the wrong places. Go where you enjoy the locations and get involved in the activities that you really enjoy. Have a good time. That’s when you will be most naturally attractive and that’s when the right man will turn up.

5. Establish Boundaries and Stick to Them. Define your expectations. Write them down. Know when someone is right for you and know when it’s time to drop everything and run away. Establish “rules” and use them to keep you safe. You won’t fly with the eagles if you hang around with the turkeys. Know when to say NO. Then say NEXT!

6. Change Things Up. Love won’t necessarily walk into your life if you only do things where you feel safe. Doing the same things repeatedly and expecting a new result is insanity defined. To get a new outcome you need to do new things. Shake things up. Ask yourself what you’ve been afraid of doing. It’s usually the exact thing you need to get revitalized. Try a Yoga or cooking class. Go to the library. Join a health club or hiking group. Help out in your community. Try something different. Learn something new. Meet new people who like what you like.

7. Remodel Your Space. Creating the right environment at work and at home sets the stage for love. Your office is your fortress and your home is your sanctuary! Reflect who you are. Surround yourself [continue reading…]