Attract, Keep And Marry The
Love Of Your Life!

When I was 42, I thought I’d met the love of my life. But at that time, all new relationships made me anxious and insecure. I’d been disappointed in love so many times that I started second guessing my choices in men.

I hoped Christopher would be different. He was my age, and like me had never been married. He lived in San Francisco and was visiting Los Angeles for a week. We spent most of that time together.

When he left, he promised to call and come back to see me within the month. I had only known him seven days, but our time together had been straight out of a love story. I’d tasted what it’s like being with a good man, and I wanted more. Thus began my first (and last) long-distance relationship.

When he didn’t call after a few days, I got scared. My anxiety got the best of me, so I picked up the phone and called him.

He was distant. He confessed he’d run into an old girlfriend. She thought they should give their relationship another chance. He wasn’t sure how he felt about her and was confused about our situation; he really liked me and didn’t know what to do. He said he needed time to think.

I should have ended the relationship then, but I didn’t. I was overcome with the fear of losing him. There was only one thing I could think of to relieve my pain—I called a psychic.

She assured me Christopher was indeed my “soul mate”. He cared for me deeply and would make the decision to be with me soon. I clung to her words desperately. They gave me hope.

Christopher made plans on two different occasions to come see me. Both times he cancelled at the last minute.

A year flew by and I was still waiting for Christopher. He continued to make

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Because of what I do, the majority of women I talk to are still single after trying to find the right man to marry for years. They’re discouraged and most of them are afraid they’ll never meet the love they’re longing for.  They lose faith that it’s ever going to happen for them as they see the people around them finding partners.

They tell me that because they live in a certain city or small town, there aren’t any men for them to date who’d be a good match. They judge where they live and can’t imagine meeting a man there who they would be attracted to or want to marry.

But it doesn’t make sense that if you live somewhere, no matter how you feel about it; your perfect match wouldn’t be there too. If you’re right for each other, your lives will bring you to where you can finally meet.

If you’re still single after suffering through a lot of failed relationships you may wonder why it hasn’t happened yet. But Let’s face it, he isn’t going to come knocking on your door while you’re watching TV. He won’t just show up one day and ask you out without you making an effort.

You may think there’s nothing you haven’t already tried, so why bother. But there may be things you’ve done in the past that you no longer do to attract love. You need to be ready for a relationship when the right man shows up.

Here are some things you need that you may have forgotten to help you find him, right now.

You need to love yourself. If you don’t believe you’re lovable or deserving of love, you’ll pick the wrong man every time. You’ll pick a man who’s damaged and unable to love you fully. Once you love who you are you’ll be available to accept love from a healthy man.

You need to get out of your house. To have a great love in your life you have to meet him first! If you stay at home and don’t extend yourself into society, how are you going to find a partner? It’s easy to retreat and feel safe, but finding love demands that you take risks and leave your comfort zone.

You need to believe he exists. If there’s truth to idea that our thoughts create our reality, you’ll want to err on the side of belief. Walking through life without hope or faith that there’s someone for you is sad and lonely. It’s like walking through life with blinders on. You’ll only be able to see what you believe, so he could walk right by you without you knowing.

I’m frequently asked if I believe there’s someone for everyone. I always answer with complete confidence; YES OF COURSE! IF YOU EXIST SO DOES HE!

If I’d taken to heart the many relationship books I read and followed their “rules,” I wouldn’t be married today.

I’m sure you’ve read them, too. The books that tell you if he hasn’t proposed by the end of the first year, dump him!

Advice like this is dangerous. It’s a glib pronouncement that ignores the complexity of the different relationships that exist, including yours.

More importantly, it discounts your ability to know what’s right for you.

When it comes to making an important decision, like when you should get a marriage proposal, you have to be able to trust yourself. But trusting yourself can be a challenge if you have a history of making bad choices in love.

Your confidence may suffer and you may doubt your ability to know what’s best for you. You may second-guess yourself and create confusion in your thinking. That’s when you find yourself running to books or to friends to give you the answers you think you need.

It’s only human to make mistakes. No matter how smart we are there’s a learning curve when it comes to relationships. We’ve all made bad choices in love.

The key to knowing what’s best for you and your relationship is to trust yourself and not rely on others for advice. When it comes to the question of whether it’s time for him to propose or not, only you can know. You may think you’re ready for marriage, but it takes two to be ready at the same time.

You can know what’s best even if you’ve been wrong before. If you make the effort to learn from your mistakes, to understand what you were thinking when you made them, you can’t help but do better.

How long should you wait for him to propose?

You’ll intuitively know how long to wait for a marriage proposal. I call this reaching your “single limit.”

My single limit was five years. I could wait that long for him to ask because I had confidence in the man I was with and the love we shared. I believed that even if he didn’t agree yet, I knew we should be married. I didn’t listen to anyone’s opinion, I trusted my knowing.

If I’d cut him out of my life any earlier, before we were ready, I’d have lost out on 15 years of wedded happiness we’ve enjoyed.

So how long should you wait for him to propose? Your single limit may be two years or even ten. It doesn’t matter if it’s right for you. Trust yourself to know what’s best and more importantly what you know about the man you love.