Don’t Make This Dating Mistake

Don’t make the dating mistake of being overly concerned about how you’re coming across to a man. Don’t lose yourself and become preoccupied with what a man is feeling. Don’t try to figure out the right thing to say to impress him.

If you can’t stop yourself from worrying about what he’s thinking, you won’t be able to relax and enjoy yourself. If you’re constantly afraid that you’re going to make a mistake or say something wrong it will take all the joy out of dating and ruin the experience for you both.

Can you imagine what it’s like for a man to be with a woman who can’t think of anything except the impression she’s making on him? This kind of dating mistake really spoils the mood.

So what’s going on when you’re hypersensitive to his feelings about you? You are letting your instincts, your primitive “fight or flight” response, give you false messages about what’s going on based on fear. It triggers the panicky feeling you get if his attention wanders away from you during a conversation, or that clutching feeling in your stomach when you see him looking at another woman across the room.

Paying too much attention to what a man is thinking will amplify your doubts about your self-worth and send you into a spiral of negative thinking. His “seeming” disinterest will validate your belief that he couldn’t possibly be interested in you, making you feel even more insecure and anxious.

If you let your sensitivity over-ride your common sense you’ll end up sabotaging your dates. It’s normal for a man to sometimes be distracted, but it’s not always about you. It’s not always an indication of how he feels about you.

Dating mistakes: When you’re insecure you expect the worst.

You can’t do two things at once: worry about how you’re coming across to a man and respond to him in a natural and relaxed way.

You have to fight your tendency to be so concerned with yourself and stop worrying about how he feels. More importantly, turn this around:

Ask yourself what you feel about him — that’s the important question here. That is why you’re out on this date…not to find out what a man is thinking, but to find the man who’s right for you.