My husband has always hated Valentine’s Day and he refuses to celebrate it in any way. At first this really bothered me. On our second Valentine’s Day together, I challenged his feelings and bought him a silver key chain engraved with “ I love you, it’s February 15th!”
But over the years I’ve come to understand and respect why he feels this way: love on demand is not very romantic. I get reminded of his love for me every day through his words and his actions so it now seems silly to put a special day aside for love.
If you are in a relationship it’s important to make your own rules that are organic for the two of you, to trust what works and be brave enough to not just go along with what society tells you to do.
Advertisers on TV and the internet have a stake in keeping Valentine’s Day going strong. They promote it big time so you’ll buy. You can bet they are not doing it for love.
If you are not enamored of this holiday (and it’s fine if you are), here’s what you might do instead. If you’re single enjoy your friends and family and buy yourself some beautiful fresh flowers to brighten up your room. If you have the good fortune to be in a loving relationship, spread the love to some of your single friends who might be feeling down.
Most importantly, please don’t put so much stock in one day a year out of 365…everyday should be a new opportunity to express your love more deeply and share it with the world around you.