Your negative thoughts about men can keep you from feeling close to a man. But there are even more destructive thoughts that can sabotage your best intentions and keep you from having that wonderful relationship you’ve always wanted.
These thoughts are what you tell yourself about you and your ability to have a loving man in your life. You may think that these thoughts are private and no one knows how you secretly feel about yourself, but they always reveal themselves through your speech and your actions.
Here are some of the most critical thoughts that you may be telling yourself:
1. I’m not pretty enough.
2. I’m unlovable.
3. My body isn’t attractive.
4. I’m not successful enough or I’m too successful.
5. I’m jinxed in love.
6. I’m too “crazy.”
There are as many negative thoughts as there are women to think them. You may think that other women who seem to be confident and secure may not be prey to them,but everyone has them. It’s just that some woman have worked on themselves and found ways to counter-act the destructive and negative things they’re telling themselves.
Getting control of your thoughts will change your life experience, there is no getting around it. It’s the first and only place to start changing yourself to have the love life you seek.
If you let them continue you will end up putting yourself down to others, always expecting the worse and unable to show up as your true self in a relationship.
The first step is to be conscious about what you’re telling yourself and start talking to yourself in positive terms. Here’s a good way to start. Every morning after you wash your face, look into your eyes in the mirror and say “Good morning beautiful!”