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When He Leaves You for Someone Else

breakingupBreaking up is hard enough, but when there’s another woman involved it can be doubly painful. It doesn’t matter if she is drop dead beautiful or looks like moldy cheese; either way feels like someone stuck a knife in your back.

It’s particularly hard to overcome the heartbreak when another woman comes into the picture because you feel out of control. Any chance you might have had to work things out with him seems to vanish because he now has this new woman in his life.

Your shaken ego will desperately try to repair its hurt pride by urging you to find out why this happened — as if finding an explanation could make you feel better. You’ll scrutinize his feelings and begin to assume all kinds of reasons why he picked her over you. This will only end up you with you blaming yourself up for lacking something that she must have.

You need to let go of trying to figure out what happened and why. I know it’s easier said than done, but your tendency will be to build her up in her mind because she “has” him and you don’t.

If you focus too much on her and make her the “bad guy,” you will get distracted from the truth of the situation. He made the discussion to be with her and it’s on him that he broke up with you.

Here are some things you can do to help you get through the breakup faster while keeping your self-esteem in tact.

  • Whatever you do, avoid the temptation to find out everything you can about her. Don’t seek out her friends and ask them questions. Don’t go to Google, facebook or twitter and search for her.
  • If you know her, stop comparing yourself to her. You know what I mean; don’t dwell on who’s prettier, thinner, younger, smarter or more successful.
  • Don’t discuss her with your friends and family, in fact, don’t talk about her anytime with anyone.

You’ve probably heard the idea that whatever you put your attention on expands. Keep that in mind as you put your thoughts back on to your life and what you want to create for yourself. The less you dwell on both of them, the better of you’ll be and the more grounded you will feel.

I know it doesn’t seem fair that someone can just “take” your man away from you, but
as time passes you’ll come to realize that she wasn’t the cause of your break-up. If the two of you were meant to be together for the long run your relationship would have stuck.

It doesn’t mean you weren’t really in love! It’s just the connection between the two of you wasn’t strong enough to bare the test of time, and actually it’s good to have found out sooner rather than later.

I promise you, in time you will look back and be grateful that things turned out the way they did.

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