If you don’t stand up for yourself in a relationship, who else will? There are people in this world who are predators and they’ll “prey” on you without thinking twice. It’s as easy for them to make you a victim as it is for you to be one.
One of the most important skills you can learn in life is how to stand up for yourself. If this is hard for you it’s probably because you were never allowed to as a child or when you did you got punished. Like most women, you were most likely raised to put your happiness behind the happiness of others.
I know what it feels like to be victimized; I was a victim for years because of my lack of confidence with men. I didn’t realize I was a victim because it was so familiar, I felt that way all the time. In my book, ‘It’s Never Too Late To Marry,” you can read about how I almost died because I couldn’t say, “no” to one particular man.
I came upon these 11 Human Rights by author and hypnotherapist Dick Sutphen years ago. They gave me pause. I’m going to share them with you because I think they will make you think and maybe even make you a little uncomfortable. You might not agree with every one of them, but you will resonate with a few.
The 11 Human Rights
- You have the right to do anything as long as you do not purposely hurt someone else and you are willing to accept the consequences.
- You have the right to maintain your self-respect by answering honestly even it does hurt someone else (as long as you are being assertive rather than aggressive)
- You have the right to be what you are without changing your ideas or behavior to satisfy someone else.
- You have the right to strive for self-actualization (to be all you can be).
- You have the right to use your own judgment as to the need priorities of yourself and others, if you decide to accept any responsibility for another’s problem.
- You have the right not to be subjected to negativity.
- You have the right to offer no excuses or justification for your decisions or behavior.
- You have the right not to care.
- You have the right to be illogical.
- You have the right to change your mind.
- You have the right to defend yourself.
These 11 rights are about making your needs important. When you stand up for yourself and set boundaries, you step into your power. You’re no longer hiding who are and a new honesty can then permeate your relationships.