I’d like to spare you the disappointment of getting your hopes up over a man who’s going to waste your time, get you to fall for him and then leave.
This can be one of the biggest relationship mistakes you can make. You can find out early on which men are really looking to marry you and have a future with you and avoid a lot of heartache. You won’t be making the mistake of giving up your freedom to a man who only wants to use you.
If you become physical with a man too soon, it will be harder to discern his true intentions. The physical intimacy will cloud your ability to see his motivations clearly and you can end up mistaking sexual interest for love.
Here are some warning signs that he’s not in it for the long haul:
- Your dates fall into a rigid pattern of having dinner and going to bed. There’s no deviation from this routine and little if any interaction with other people. You start to feel that you’re expected to go to bed with him every time you see him, as though his buying you dinner gives him the right to go home with you.
- When he calls for a date, it’s always at the last minute. He expects you to be available to see him whenever he wants. He has plenty of excuses why he can’t plan ahead and you only get together when it’s convenient for him. He won’t commit ahead of time to parties, family get-togethers or holiday events and usually ends up being a no-show at the last minute. You want to see him, so you let it be by his rules.
- From the start, he tells you that he’s not ready for a serious relationship but you’re really special and he really likes you. It seems that he’s really into you and that he really wants to spend time with you. In fact, he can’t keep his hands off you (very flattering) and he’s acting like a serious suitor. But there’s a big difference: HE TOLD YOU he’s not ready for a relationship. No matter how he treats you, men who are open to finding true love will not tell you that.
Relationship Mistakes: Look for a man who is not afraid to admit he wants a serious relationship
It can seem so obvious when you read these 3 signs. Who would let themselves put up with this kind of behavior? Well I admit that I did for years — and sometimes you can get sucked into these relationship mistakes so quickly that you need some kind of help to get out.
Please know, it’s happened to every woman at some time or other and there’s no shame in that. It’s part of the learning process, an essential step in recognizing what you really want from a man, and how to find the man who is going to marry you.