Your mindset is everything when it comes to helping you find love. I’m not just talking about romantic love, I’m talking about love overall. Love is a state of mind that either is or isn’t something you cultivate.
Wikipedia defines mindset as:
“A set of assumptions, methods or notations held by one or more people…that creates a powerful incentive within these people or groups to continue to adopt or accept prior behaviors, choices, or tools.”
The fact is your mindset is how you approach the world, and if you let it run wild it will compel you to make the same choices over and over again. No one is exempt from having a mindset, we all have one. It is like a filter through which you perceive your reality. Your mindset, like a bad habit, has a shadow side. The shadow is devious and makes unable to see that we have any particular mindset at all. It tricks us into believing it’s just the way we think — no big deal.
If you are having trouble in your romantic life, it’s time to check your mindset and see if it needs an adjustment. If you even think your mindset might be causing problems, you can determine to change it. Like breaking any habit, it requires effort and determination.
To help you see if your mindset is on track to find love, ask yourself:
- Have you created the right environment to attract love? How you set up your life and personal space will tell you a lot. If you don’t pay attention to how you’re living and what you come home to at night, you aren’t “setting the stage” for the love you want. Surround yourself with things that are beautiful to you and that make you feel good. Your bedroom should be restful and inviting. Your home space should be free of clutter. Changing your home environment will change your energy and create a new mindset towards love.
- Are you surrounding yourself with people who support you? If you are not seeking out positive, supportive people in your life, you will feel overwhelmed. None of us can do it alone, I don’t care how strong you think you are, we all need outside input and camaraderie to remind us that we are valuable and special people. If you spend time with friends who love to gossip and complain it can’t help but rub off on you. These kinds of interactions support a mindset of being a victim to outside circumstances. You must find people who have a positive outlook on life and love and who see you as the wonderful person you are.
- Do you take courageous action on your own behalf? As women we were not really taught the value of courage, that was something reserved for boys. But being fully committed to loving someone and being vulnerable (which true love requires) demands that you have courage. It’s not easy to trust another human being with your deepest self; it can feel like a risk. But once you dive into a romantic relationship, it will require courage to hang in there to face the ups and downs. Other courageous actions you will need to take are: speaking up for yourself, honoring your boundaries, and telling the truth.
Your mindset to find love will change as you take action
Your mindset will be your greatest ally to help you find love and at the same time it will help you improve every area of your life.