Did you know you could be held prisoner by your memories? If you are in the habit of dwelling on your past painful experiences with men, those memories can affect you almost as strongly as when they were actually going through them.
Your thoughts are constantly causing physical reactions in your body. If you don’t believe it, just take a moment and imagine biting into a sour lemon – close your eyes and do it now — I bet you felt the saliva in your mouth increase and maybe your face even grimaced. Your thoughts are that powerful!
Have you ever watched an elderly person remembering a painful experience that happened 50 years ago? Tears come to their eyes as they feel all the emotion again as if no time had passed. This is because in the subconscious where all our memories are stored there is no sense of time.
Reliving you painful past experiences can harm your health and give your life a sense of heaviness and futility. Remember that what you focus on expands and I’m sure you would rather expand your relationships with men in positive ways.
Your past experiences can give you a sense of history and connectedness but they can also create a prison of belief or emotion that keeps you from enjoying the present moment and from clearly seeing the postive choices that are available to you now.