Avoid This Common Dating Mistake

Use Your Heart To See On A Date

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” ~Antoine de St Exupery, The Little Prince

And so it is with dating. It’s easy to judge a man the moment you meet him and make a snap decision of his worth. First impressions are important, but they aren’t the whole story. You must get beyond your first impression of the man in front of you.

If you pay too much attention to what you’re seeing and thinking you’ll miss a lot. It’s a dating mistake we all make. But if you focus on your feelings (your heart) it will give you much more accurate information than your eyes ever will.

If you’re not initially thrilled with what you see, don’t just shut down. You may miss out on a wonderful human being. I almost did myself. When I met my husband my first reaction was disappointment. I couldn’t get past how he looked. At that time he had
a big mustache and short spiky hair that I couldn’t get passed.

But I hung in there and later in the evening his looks lost their importance and he seemed to transform in front of me. I suddenly felt the beautiful spirit of the man and I was hooked.

So how do you make the shift from just seeing a man to feeling him? Your heart is the key. You must move your focus from the thoughts in your mind to the feelings in your heart. It’s a matter of tuning in to how your body is feeling because your body is connected to your heart. This is how to get in touch with your inner knowing where you’re feeling things as opposed to thinking them.

On a date, the signals from your heart can be subtle especially if you’re not used to paying attention. They can be hard to identify because your mind’s so busy. While it’s preoccupied with analyzing and judging the man you’re with, there’s little room for the information from your heart to get through.

As you develop the skill of tuning into your heart, you’ll begin to trust it and rely on the information it’s giving you. At first you may not feel much, but soon you’ll be aware of subtle physical sensations in your body. You may notice a sense of tightness or unease or perhaps of excitement or peace. What you feel is a message and you’ll know what it’s telling you.

If you practice tuning in to your heart your dating experiences will change. You’ll get more truthful and valuable information about the men you are with and stop the risky practice of rushing to judgment.