Are you sick and tired of worrying about getting married? Are you fed up with looking for love and always focusing on what you don’t have?
During my roller-coaster love life I reached a point where I literally got so bored with myself and my constant focus on men; I didn’t talk to any one for a week.
I got to the point of being sick and tired of being sick and tired of looking for love.
I stayed in my apartment and had a pity party for myself. I escaped my lonely reality by watching TV and eating lots of popcorn sprinkled with Parmesan cheese.
Love stories had always been my favorite genre of movies, but now I couldn’t stand the idea of watching anything that had to do with romance.
So instead, I got into watching re-runs of Colombo, Matlock and Murder She Wrote. It turned out mysteries were great “mind candy,” an easy way for me to escape what I perceived to be my miserable lonely life. Jessica Fletcher was single and happy. She never thought about men, she was too busy solving murders. I wanted some of what she had. I had gotten too caught up in looking for love to the exclusion of other things I could be doing.
When you hit a wall you have to find what will work for you. TV mysteries were my escape but they might not be not yours.
Here are some ideas that might help when you get sick and tired of looking for love:
Train for a marathon (even if you don’t plan to run it)
Get out of town and treat yourself to hotel room
Take a shot at painting, knitting, cooking or pot throwing
Write a book or a blog (even if you don’t think you can write)
Clean the house (this would be my last choice though maybe not yours)
You get the idea. You need to distract yourself for a long enough amount of time so you can rally and get a better perspective on things.
Looking for love like anything worthwhile will take some effort, so be sure you take care of yourself along the way.